It’s easy to judge others on the outside looking in. Especially, with social media nowadays. With looking at people’s lives on social media, it is easy to assume that everyone has a perfect life. We see their highlights. We see what everyone else wants us to see. Usually and understandably, people want us to see the best pieces of their life. They show us promotions, vacations, perfect days with loved ones, and all their successes. I’m not saying there is anything wrong with sharing those successes. It’s special to be able to talk about things that make you happy. Looking at your hard work and appreciating those moments when things feel right. I do believe, however, that it is also important to acknowledge the hard times. To recognize those moments when nothing seems okay. When all you can do is breathe for a day, and you count that as a success. Everyone has their struggles, but it is something that not everyone feels comfortable with sharing, which I understand as well.
I often feel behind in life, and yes this does have a piece to do with social media. Everyone else seems to have their lives together. They have houses, pets, jobs, significant others and moving along in the world. I am still in graduate school, still struggling to get by, I still have no idea what I want to do with my life, and struggling to find my place in the world. I feel as if everyone else has some map or information about how to succeed in life that I am just missing. Everyone else’s life must be so much better than mine. Everyone knows what they are doing, but me.
None of that is true. Everyone deals with something that you probably have no idea about. I am open about my struggles because I want others to know they are not alone. I try to live life as much as I can. I travel. I explore. I try new activities. It helps. I post photos online of these moments because I honestly cherish and appreciate them. However, please know that I also usually have anxiety attacks or times with lingering depression during these moments. That’s okay, though. I will never have a perfect life, but I will never have it any other way.